Charlie, Scout and Kiefer are less than two months away from their third birthday, less than two weeks away from their first dentist appointment, and about three and a half weeks in beds instead of cribs.
However busy Suzy and I are, though, the little tricksters are the true wonders. There's so much to say. Ahh, where to start...
--Oh, of course, with Scouty.
She's still the boss. She often parents the boys, in fact. One night, she told Charlie to stop crying, and it worked. I thought to myself, "This is great, I'll just give her directions and take Suzy out to dinner." But it doesn't stop there. She often commands her own body parts to cooperate with her intentions: "Get in there, foot." And it seems to work: her foot and shoe both hop to whenever she speaks, and so do I. The world itself wouldn't turn but by her decree.
One night up in the mountains, I went to their room to enforce bedtime rules for about the 100th time, but preceded my entrance with a stern verbal warning of my coming. I heard bodies leap back onto their beds, as I figured they would. But when I opened the door, she was just standing there with her hand on her hip--oh, and she was facing the other direction. My arrival didn't even merit eye contact. Little Miss Independence, I'll tell you.
Oh, and she is by far the best with delay tactics. Really, the boys only imitate her. "I need to take my shoes into the living room...One more kiss...Kiss my fingers...Trace my feet...Sing to me...Put my towel on..." (--that's right, lately she parades around like an Arabian Princess, wrapping herself in her hooded towel--my most effective trick has become, "Scout, if you can't take a nap with that towel, I'll have to take it away"). But, make no mistake about it, she is my sweetheart, and has as cute a personality as you could ever imagine.
Oh, and she has a great laugh. And she also loves art, whether writing or drawing or painting--let's see, art, cooking and grocery shopping.
And then there's the Doo.
Kiefer Doo. He's always going for a laugh, and is certainly the one that has made the most celebrated word of the house "Booty." That word, or a punch to his own head, or the giant dance (during which he raises his elbows high and stomps around) are all sure triggers for hilarity.
But if you were to ask me what most sets Kiefer apart right now, I would have to say an uncanny athletic ability. He throws spirals, and far. He plants his foot when he kicks, and kicks with his laces (all right side, by the way). And his hand-eye coordination is also remarkable. Once, Charlie had created a game of hitting a big ball with a Nerf-crockett mallet (we call it golf), and, I thought, "Wow, that's pretty good. Maybe that's something in which Charlie will excel." And then Kiefer walks in, grabs the mallet, and SMASH!--first time: I had to duck for cover. It's really something--I mean, for a person who, like his siblings, will probably never grow much taller than a meter. But he is also a very sensitive little guy, loves kisses and being held and holding hands and having his face traced, and he is very much aware of how he or another is perceived--always watching, studying reactions--and he almost can't stand "being caught" making a mistake.
And, of course, that leaves Charlier Bird.
This guy is hilarious, and he is so expressive. Those eyebrows. It's not really what he says that ever startles you, or that makes you laugh. It's how he says it. And he can just sit there, head tilted a bit down, eyebrows raised up behind his bangs, smirking, waiting, waiting and smirking, quite certain you'll crack at any moment, however mad you are pretending to be. Or he'll come up to you, repeat something you had already said, and kind of squint and nod his head, as though you and he had an understanding far beyond words or beyond the present meaning of any particular episode. Natural entertainer, for sure. He even has a fake laugh. That said, his real delight is actually laughing. He loves getting tickled or tackled or tagged in a kind of pre- or post-bath nudie-race ritual. He and Kiefer are a real tandem, though he is not as consistently ready to fool around as Kiefer.
So, there you go, my dear benefactors and friends. Life is flying, and really this is just an Impressionist painting of the hustle and bustle of our day. As any of you parents know, this is what each of them is or was like a moment ago (what I imagined anyway), and nothing like each will be a moment later. But just as much as I would like to slow it down and relish it all the more, I also relish the continually renewing chance to meet each of these miracles. What is parenthood, really, if not the best seat in the house?
Sure, it's a roller coaster ride too, but Suzy and I are just exhilarated about it--wanting to be nowhere else, even in our toughest moments. I mean, just look at them: Bird, Doo, and Little Ms. Thang.
The DeStefanos
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